About F*Revolution (fstarrevolution)
F* Revolution stands for The Feminine Revolution and differs from Feminism. Feminism is about equal rights and equal pay which assumes that we are all equal. This may sound controversial so I tell people when they ask my thoughts about equality that no matter how hard I try I cannot sing like Beyoncé, no matter how hard I try I cannot be white, and no matter how hard a man tries he can’t give birth.
There is no leveling the playing field, we each have our distinctions. As individuals and within our gender or race we all have a distinct contribution. That does not mean that those who are oppressed shouldn’t rise up to better themselves as the Feminists did but what was left out of that conversation was men. As women gained men lost power and control of women and that change has to be included in the conversation. Some men respond to this loss by hanging on to tradition. I can understand that, when I lose any small battle in life my impulse is to hang on as well. As a half African American woman, I accept the same stubbornness about racism. If I was born as a white male in Mississippi I would probably be racist. Acknowledging that doesn’t mean that a white supremacy is acceptable instead it starts the conversation from a place of understanding of how things are rather than how things should be.
Our Rally: Cry: Rock, Paper, Scissors, Vagina – Vagina Always Wins
At first glance the use of the word “vagina” in this statement can seem vulgar and it also appears that we are saying that women are better than men and certainly it is a phrase that is meant to catch your attention. Beyond the headline is a message of leadership. Vagina is not profanity, it describes the anatomy of a woman so by putting it in the forefront it questions our shame. Next consider the other elements of the game; the rocks crushes, the paper envelopes, the scissors cuts, but the vagina is different. As a representation of femininity, the vagina represent the emotional development (feeling, caring, nurturing…) in relationships, which in our culture has been side lined for too long.
For most of us, our first major influence is our mother’s. Our life and well-being depend on her.
My mother was a major influence but not in a positive way, due to her own traumas. My stepmother “Moo” as I came to call her, was the person--the woman-- who changed my life.
I first met Moo when I was 12, and the way both of my parent handled the divorce was with a carelessness and thoughtlessness that was jarring and disturbing. Moo was the light, a brilliant and caring woman who was undaunted by the vitriol which the position of stepmother yielded. She was head of the research department at Time and Life when Time and Life was bigger than life and boasted some of the greatest talent and minds that worked under one roof. She was smart as a whip and died last year at the age of 98 with all of her faculties in tack. She died the way she lived, with grace and caring for others. I could go on and on about how extraordinary she was and her accomplishments, but her greatest achievement was how she spoke to the best part of you, right into the heart of your essence and was not derailed or seduced by one’s behavior. My adolescent life was shepherded by one of the single greatest women I have ever known and because of that relationship I have sought out, both consciously and unconsciously, great women. My development and evolution have come from the women in my life. I have learned love, I found my calling. I have learned to trust my intelligence and instincts. I have learned that character is the only thing that is important. I have learned that even though money and cache are important, they are only important for the difference they can make in the world. These life lessons, and more, have come from all the women in my life.
F*Revolution, a Feminine revolution, is an acknowledgement of the power of the feminine voice. A voice that is inclusive and inquisitive, demanding and educational, pioneering and developmental and so much more. A voice that understands the value of all and has the ability to acknowledge resources and contributions without losing sight of their own.
My particular desire to drive a conversation, a brand that has women express their leadership, comes from my past and current relationships and partnerships with great women. The entry point into F*Revolution might be slightly different-- or very different-- from mine but I think we can all agree that the time has come for true leadership, power not force, inclusivity not separation, collaboration not credit. We are at a nexus and the choices we make and the decisions we make are crucial. It’s time to put leadership into the hands of the gender that’s not fascinated with power, but understands how to use it.